Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Ain't nobody got time for that!


Recently, one of my cousins posted on Facebook about how she got stuck in an elevator while at work. She was good-humored about the incident – but maybe because she and the other occupants had been eventually freed! (Thank you, St. Louis Fire Department!) She and some other people cracked a few jokes about getting stuck in an elevator while on the clock at work, and she posted a meme that said: “Getting stuck in an elevator at work – ain’t nobody got time for that!”

I had a good laugh reading all of the posts, but the meme (and her experience) made me think about the whole “ain’t nobody got time for that!” sort of thing.

I remember watching an episode of a show called Third Watch where the character Fred and his wife Faith are stuck in an elevator and Fred starts to have a heart attack. When it comes to something like being stuck somewhere and a medical emergency strikes, time is of the essence! In an instance of someone having a heart attack, people need to act fast to get them medical attention. I have read stories and seen videos of things happening to people while getting stuck in an elevator. Getting stuck in an elevator can be a scary experience and for someone with a medical condition or who has a medical emergency, things can go from bad to worse. This is one of the reasons why I dread using an elevator. I have seen videos of so many accidents happening on elevators, and as someone with social anxiety, getting stuck in an elevator with complete strangers can be nerve-wracking.

Then I also think about the whole “time” concept of the thing. What if there is someone in a hurry when they get stuck in an elevator? But, more importantly, NO ONE really has the time for the inconvenience of getting stuck in an elevator! They could be tired after a long day at work and just want to get home to their family. Or they could be on their way to helping someone in need.

Plus, thinking more about this, it made me think about how I have been more selective with how I spend my time. I have a job that keeps me busy and working 4 days a week, so when it’s a work day, my free time is iffy, Sometimes I get busy with work and it can take me hours to be able to do things like respond to Facebook comments or reply to an email. I am also more selective with how I spend my FREE time on my days off. I only have three days to do whatever the heck I want to do – go to the gym, binge watch a TV show, read a book, study for an online course, etc. – so I put that free time to good use! Having a job has made me recognize that my free time is valuable and that I must guard it very carefully. This includes making sure I don’t waste ANY of it. Plus, one of those 3 days has me on a schedule, so if I’m not doing one thing during a certain time, I am doing another thing! After I have moved on to the other thing, the thing I was previously doing gets bumped to a later time if it needs more attention.

So I’m not going to waste my time getting into a debate with an anti-vaxxer who is some complete stranger thinking they could hijack my friend’s Facebook post by getting on my case about how I support getting kids vaccinated. (Anti-vaxxers can be extremely argumentative! They be all like “I don’t believe in vaccinating my kid and neither should you!”) I am not going to waste my time crying over the past or bringing up old issues with a person who is DEAD and can’t do a damn thing to me anymore. I am not going to waste my time trying to convince an ex-friend that she was WRONG about me and that it was unfair of her to end our years-long friendship over a misunderstanding. (Been there, done that!) I am not going to waste my time over drama on Facebook or getting into arguments with people who are invalidating my feelings about something. I am not going to waste my time complaining about things that are out of my control or resurrecting old shit to throw at people.

Nope. Ain’t nobody got time for any of that!

Sure, I occasionally DO “waste time” sharing funny memes on Facebook or browsing my Pinterest feed, but that’s how I relax and unwind. Those kinds of things make me laugh and they inspire me. That’s not so terrible!

So how we choose to spend our time is our own personal choice. Everybody has the same 24 hours in a day and everybody gets to decide how they use those 24 hours – unless they are at work and have no choice but to spend some of their 24 hours doing their jobs! But for the free time that we are given, we can choose what to do with it. It’s a personal choice and we shouldn’t have to defend our personal choices to anyone. Because, ya know, ain’t nobody got time for that, either!        

Friday, January 11, 2019

If a person REALLY loved you


If a person really loved you, they would support you and encourage you when you are feeling doubt.

If a person really loved you, they would be there for you and defend you when you are feeling scared.

If a person really loved you, they would move mountains and fight dragons to help you when you are feeling defenseless.

If a person really loved you, they would make time for you and reach out when you are feeling alone.

If a person really loved you, their actions would erase all insecurities and confusion when you are feeling unloved.

If a person really loved you, they would defend your name in your absence when you are feeling defeated.

If a person really loved you, they would do everything they can to help out and lessen the burden on your shoulders when you are feeling overwhelmed.

If a person really loved you, they would remind you of the good things and all the happy times when you are feeling sad.

If a person really loved you, they would include you and keep you a part of their life when you are feeling unwanted.

If a person really loved you, they would applaud and cheer for you when you are finally feeling happy again.