Don't like my swearing? Go away!

This morning, just as I was getting my second cup of coffee, I received a notification that someone on Pinterest had commented on a pin I had on my “Good quotes” board. The comment was confusing and I didn’t get what the person meant. As I was pondering this, I received another notification of a second comment from this person. I had to go to the pin itself to see what she was talking about – then I had to roll my eyes. Apparently, this person not only assumed that I was the person to create that very pin and was therefore responsible for the words on it (which is NOT true), but she was also offended by the swearing on that pin.

Seriously??

Instead of telling her to go fuck herself, I politely let her know that I was not the person who created that pin. Therefore, I am not the person who put those swear words on it. I decided that would be the end of it and made a mental note to block her if she bothered me again.

I am so sick and tired of people getting on my case for swearing. Seriously, I am a 42-year-old woman, not some child for anyone to discipline. I. Am. Allowed. To. Swear!!!!

I don’t swear to get attention. I don’t swear because my dad swore. I don’t swear to offend anyone or make them cower into some corner. It’s just a part of the way I communicate! And I’ll be damned if I am going to allow anyone, especially some chick on the Internet, to have any kind of control over how I speak. I won’t watch my language just because it MIGHT offend someone. If I am talking with someone who I know doesn’t like swearing, I’ll refrain from using swear words. But if it’s on something like a blog post, a book, on a pin, on a meme or some Facebook post that is NOT directed at any one particular person, then I’ll say whatever the hell I want to!

If I want to swear, I will! If people don’t like it, that is too fucking bad.

In fact, if they don’t like it, they can just leave me the hell alone. Don’t talk to me. Don’t follow me. Don’t read shit on my page or read my blogs. (It’s not like I already have a huge readership, anyway!) Don’t check out my pins on Pinterest and, please, do not try to tell me I should not swear. Because guess what? YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS OF ME! No one is. In fact, I am the boss of myself, and I am perfectly fine with swearing. I am TOTALLY okay with swearing. I mean, it’s not like I am spewing Satanic incantations or spreading hatred around on the ‘Net.

Swear words are just words. And words do not bother me at all. Words have NO power over me. I was bullied for YEARS by people who used words as their weapon to hurt me, put me down, make me wish I was dead, and hate the world. But eventually, I grew immune to hurtful words. I built up a defense against their verbal attacks. I got to a point where I could shrug off their words and NOT CARE what they thought about me. Because all that matters is what I think about me.

Some people find swearing offensive but I don’t think swearing is offensive. There are lots of other things in this world that I find to be offensive. Racism is one of them. Homophobia is another. Verbally abusing a child is offensive, as is animal cruelty.

But swearing? Nope, I don’t think swearing is offensive at all. Swearing doesn’t bother me one bit! So I swear. And if someone else swears, more power to them! (Coincidentally, one person who put me down for swearing on Facebook actually used a swear word in one of her posts later on. Hypocrisy much?)

I understand that someone else may find swearing offensive. It’s a free country; you can be offended by swearing if that’s your thing. I understand that. I respect that.

But unless I am actually talking to YOU or unless it’s something directed at YOU, then my swearing on the Internet is just me talking like I always do. If I think something is funny, I’ll pin it or share it even if it has a swear word or two on it. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY!!!! It was not directed at you. It was not meant for you. So try looking the other way or just ignoring it. In fact, if you can’t handle my swearing on the Internet, then do me a HUGE favor and stop trying to control me. You will fail. Instead, just go away. Leave me alone. Please!

Routines

I usually have a set of routines for myself. There are the routines during the school week and the routines during the weekend. I have a list of specific routines that I complete every Sunday. Part of them are just for something to enjoy doing once a week and part of them are to get ready for another busy school week.

As I sat at the desk completing one of my Sunday routines, I started to ask myself if this is something I would want to do without if I ever had less time on my hands during my future Sundays to do the normal Sunday routines. Of course, if I had less free time on Sundays, that would mean some of the normal Sunday routines would get removed from my list. Then again, one of the reasons I do these things on a Sunday is because Sunday is less busy. Yes, it IS the day I get ready for the week. It’s the day we prepare for a whole ‘nother week! But it still is not as busy as most days. It just seems like the right day to do these things. But would I be okay with abandoning the newest Sunday routine if I had to?

After some thought, I decided, probably not.

Like I said, some of my Sunday routines are things I enjoy doing, and I enjoy checking in with people I know IRL on one particular site I’m connected with them at. I like seeing what new things they have put up on their pages. I don’t get anything out of this, of course, nor do I expect to. It’s just something that I like to do. These people are kinda important to me so I want to check in with them. (They usually don’t know I am checking in, though!)

I guess some routines are just harder to let go of than most. If I HAD to ditch doing laundry every Sunday, I would GLADLY give that one up! If I had to forego checking the finances Monday through Friday to make sure everything was A-OK, I would be happy to ditch that, too! But reading every day? Watching a show or movie while the kids are in school? Getting up super early on Monday morning so I can enjoy my coffee before the busy day starts? Nope, I don’t think so. Those kind of routines help me to reconnect with my own self, in a way. The reason why I have me-time is because I just need some time to myself to enjoy “me the person” before going back to being “me the mom” or “me the wife.” So I think they are important routines to keep.

So how could checking in with other people I know be important, too? I think it’s important because it’s a chance to remember them again. We don’t normally stay in touch during the week. This is my way of seeing if anything is new with them, even if they don’t know that I happened to pay a virtual visit at their site.