I hate it when people make assumptions and/or jump to
conclusions and think that THEY are right. It’s worse when people make
assumptions and post an angry comment about it on Facebook.
In a perfect world, people would ASK about things BEFORE
judging others or jumping to the wrong conclusions.
But we don’t live in a perfect world. Humans are
fallible. Humans make mistakes. And, humans are unpredictable. I was reminded
of this last night when someone blew a gasket over something and decided to
flake out on helping us. Apparently, their problem – WHATEVER IT WAS – was so terrible
that they wanted to make innocent, defenseless animals suffer for it. He took
his anger out on the animals, for SOME REASON, even though it was not THEIR
fault! And so, yeah, it was a NICE reminder of just how unpredictable people
can be. I was saying last night about how I couldn’t even wrap my brain around
why he was doing that, but he did that, and we had to call in reinforcements.
(What’s done is done and there was nothing we could do about it. We just had to
make other arrangements and move forward. That’s all we COULD do!)
These reinforcements that my daughter called in were our
Plan B. But I did not stop there: I had a Plan B for my Plan B! Because that’s
just the kind of person that I am.
I tell my kids, “Always have a Plan B!” Put another plan
into place just in case the original plan does not work out or something goes wrong.
And if life has taught me anything, there is ALWAYS something that COULD go
wrong! Things just never work out the way we want them to. That’s life!
My habit of always having a Plan B is something I WILL
NOT apologize for doing, though. And I’m sorry if it makes people uncomfortable
or if peoples’ feelings are hurt or if people are going to judge me wrongly
just because I always have a Plan B, but life has been too chaotic and I’ve had
to deal with A LOT of bullshit both from people AND from life that I’m not
about to change my way of doing things. And I really, really feel that having a
Plan B for everything is kind of a good thing.
My decision to make a Plan B in this particular case – my
Plan B being having back-up in place – was not a reflection of the person we
called in for help. I am not judging anyone. I am not making assumptions of
anyone. I am not acting like I don’t trust someone enough to have a key to my
house while I am gone. It is not that AT ALL.
It is only me having a Plan B! That’s it! That is all
there is to it!
And, to be honest, I would feel a whole heck of a lot
better having a Plan B – having a back-up person to call in if something goes
wrong. When it comes to the welfare of our animals and making sure they don’t
starve, I really, really feel a lot better knowing there are other people we
can contact for the job of feeding them IF THEY ARE NEEDED.
So, please, PLEASE, do not take this personally. I am not
going to change this decision.
I am just the kind of person to always have a Plan B. I
have been through too many experiences of trying to do things in life and
things being shot to shit or not going the way that I hoped and I just really
don’t trust having one plan in place anymore. I need to have two plans for
something! Or even three plans! THAT IS JUST ME! That is just the way that I
am. It is not a reflection for how I feel for anyone or my opinions of anyone.
When it comes to things going wrong or life blowing up in our faces like that
with the unexpected, we cannot put our feelings into the equation anymore. We have
to do what we have to do. And in this case, what we have to do is have back-up
if that back-up is needed. I just really feel a lot better if there is another
plan in place, and it has NOTHING to do with feelings or emotions or opinions or whether we trust someone
AT ALL. This is just me not trusting things going the way that we want them to.
Because usually, they don’t.
